Monday, January 29, 2007

SiF #52 - Playing with Sex

Episode 52: Playing with Sex
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Episode 52 – Playing with Sex
Intro:
Sex is fun and we can prove it. In this episode we’re going to be talking about the joys of playing with sex and all the fun that can be had with one of the greatest natural pleasures life has to offer.
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The Show,
We all know that sex is fun. 94 % of Americans have it just for the fun of it, but I’ve found myself wondering if we are really having fun with sex or are we just using it as a way to alleviate us from the urge to have sex.
Our own feelings about sex and our sex practices.
Do we play with sex or do we just use it to get off?

Jade and I used to play a lot with sex. We’d get naked and just touch each other and experiment with different kissing techniques. We’d try different positions and we’d try licking and sucking on just about any appendage we could fit in our mouths and stick our tongues in any hole we could find. Not everything we tried felt great or lead to orgasms but it was all fun. Now it seems that we’ve figured out the positions that work best for getting each other off and we get to them, fuck as hard as possible, cum, get dressed and get on with our lives.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, mostly because I’m nearing completion of a new game here at greatsexgames.com that is for couples. Unlike all previous games that have been designed for play at parties, this game just for you and one partner. I’ve been trying to design this game for years but for some reason I just couldn’t find the right balance of making a game that was engaging for a vast audience of people. Most of the sex games out there are really stupid because Jade and I don’t need a pair of dice or a card to tell us to suck a nipple or give each other oral sex. We’re pretty good at asking for that when we want it. We needed a game that really grabbed us and make us think about sex and play with it in a way that was a bit challenging, a bit playful and a bit naughty.

The answer came from you, our listeners wrote me and asked me, how can I get my partner to go down on me, how do I start a conversation about bondage, I like to play hard to get, how can I get my partner to pursue me, I want to be dominated, how can I get my partner to do this to me.

The challenges came quite easily because you had all told me what activities you want to try with your partners. So I just wrote down the top 90 activities from both men and women and described the activities on the each card in a very frank manner. Then I needed to figure out a way to make the game worth playing. It just isn’t all that enlightening or exciting to draw a card and do what is on it. I needed to make it engaging so I made it so that each player would have to guess how the other player would respond when given the choice between 2 to 4 sexual scenarios.

Read a few of the pillow talk cards

Now you get points for guessing what your partner would pick so there is a scoring element. But more importantly, you’ve begun a discussion about the kinds of sexual tastes each of you have.

Other cards are more specific about preferred sexual practices and they are clearly defined by the group they are in.
Pillow Talk are the cards that we just read and they are there to get you communicating about fantasy, role-playing and the like
Touch Tests, get you talking about the way that you like to be touched.
Oral Action, is all about oral sex and having anything to do with using your lips, mouth and tongue for sexual pleasure
Sex Play, is all about good old-fashioned penis in vagina sex.
Kinky action, will get you communicating about fetishes, and the really dirty stuff.
And
Act it outs are special cards that you read silently, guess how your partner will react and them perform the action as described on the card.

To make the game a bit more wiley and competitive, I made an optional deck of cards that you can use to reverse the action back on your partner, call a partner’s bluff and dare your partner to change their mind should they ever answer no when you want them to answer yes.

You don’t need to buy game to play with your lover.
You can easily make your own games and play them whenever you want for free.

Find the fruit.
Blindfold your partner and hide a grape or a cherry somewhere on your body. Then have them go searching with their lips until they find it.

Trust, tied and ticked.
Tie your partner to the bed and use a soft brush or feather to tickle them. Goose bumps.

How to get a non-responsive partner to play with you:
I know that after this show airs, I’m going to get tons of letters from many of you asking how you can get your partner to play and be sexually creative with you.

Here are my top 3 slabs of advice:

Try just asking for something very specific. Be very specific. Describe the play that you want in a very obvious manner. Write it down with step by step instructions if you need to. Yes I know that might kill some of the fun but perhaps after they get comfortable play the first few times it may become more natural for them.
Example: If you want to play hard to get, just ask them to keep trying to seduce you for 15 minutes no matter how many times or how sternly you say no.

If your partner continues to refuse to play with you, sit down for a serious talk. Tell them that you want more from your sexual relationship. Tell them that this is important to you and you need it to be content. Compare it to an aspect of your partner’s life that is equally important to them. Tell them the truth. Tell them that if your needs are not met you will feel dejected, if you indeed will.
If after this serious conversation doesn’t make them come running into the bedroom with wearing a wetsuit and a conquistador helmet and wielding a dildo on a saws-all I have one last option to offer. Negotiate your pants off.
Get out a pen and paper and discuss a plan with them. Ask them for something that they REALLY want that you can help them obtain or achieve. This may be material or an ethereal or whatever, just so long as you actually can help them get it.
Write it down. Then tell them what you want and write IT down.
Maybe you want them to initiate sex 3 times a week. Maybe you want them to watch a porn with you. Maybe you want them to wear a wetsuit, conquistador helmet and wield a dildo on a saws-all.
Have both of you read it, sign it and keep a copy.
Now work your ass off to get them what they want and expect the same from them.

Tuesday, January 16, 2007

SiF #50 - Talking Toxic Toys with Topco

Episode 50: Talking Toxic Toys with Topco
Today we talk to Desiree from sex toy giant, Topco Toys. Also joining us in the studio is Jessica and Jennifer from The Smitten Kitten and the Coalition Against Toxic Toys. There has been a lot of confusion about toxic sex toys lately and we're going to get to the bottom of it.
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Tuesday, January 9, 2007

SiF #49 - If I Could Change One Thing


Episode 49: If I Could Change One Thing
What would you change about your sex partner(s) if you could change only one thing about them? We discuss what we'd change about our sex partners on this very personal episode of Sex is Fun.
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Friday, January 5, 2007

SiF #48 - Circumcision and Foreskin Restoration


Episode 68: Circumcision and Foreskin Restoration
On tonight’s show we will be talking about the practice of circumcision and foreskin restoration. This show is a must listen for all future parents that will have to face the decision of weather or not to circumcise their new-born boys.
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What is circumcision?
It is the surgical or ritualistic removal of male foreskin or prepuce. It means that they cut off the skin that would normally cover the head of the penis when flaccid.

Circumcision History:
The practice of circumcision has been for a long time and may predate biblical references. There are many differing theories of the origin of circumcision and they appear to develop from issues of hygiene, spiritual cleanliness and even political ideology.

The Jews adopted circumcision as a religious ritual and preserved this practice into modern times. The circumcision of Abraham removed only the very tip of the forskin that extended beyond the head of the penis. Moses prohibited circumcision for his 40 year walk through the desert and Joshua reinstated foreskin removal at Gilgal. Much of early biblical references of circumcision stated sacrifice of sinful human enjoyment for the sake of holiness in the afterlife.

Greeks and Romans on the other hand placed a high value on the male foreskin and even made laws to prohibiting the practice. Thus may have lead to the widespread adoption of circumcision by Christians who appear to have written much of their doctrine simply to separate themselves from their Roman enemies.

Pondus Judaeus made it popular for Jewish males to wear a bronze on their residual foreskin to stretch it back over the head of the penis. This may be the first historical reference to foreskin restoration.

Metzitah was not introduced until the Talmudic Period (aound 500 C.E.) which was responsible for the style that resembles the modern circumcision with much if not all of the foreskin removed from the penis.

Christians continued to bounce between recommending circumcision and condemning the practice apparently largely based on who they wanted to ostracize throughout the years. For instance they took a strong stance against the practice briefly in the first century in Acts 21:25 when St. Paul taught parents that they should not circumcise their children and warned Titus to beware of the “circumcision group” in Titus 1:10-16

A reform movement took place within Judaism around 1843 that declared the circumcision was unnecessary.

Sex, Time, and Power. Leonard Shlain theory

American Christians continued the practice of circumcision in a failed attempt to prevent male masturbation.

In 1949 a British Pediatrician named Gairdner wrote that circumcision was medically unnecessary and non-beneficial and contraindicated because of complications including accidental penis laceration leading to amputation infection and some cases death.

America waited another 20 years before addressing neonatal circumcision when the Journal of the American Medical Association published a landmark article by Dr. E. Noel Preston condemned the practice and even stated that it may lead to psychological and sexual difficulties.

All of this can be found here. http://www.cirp.org/library/history/

What do we really know about the health reasons for getting cut?
Up until a few years ago there was only minor evidence that men without foreskin were less likely to develop infections and ulcers on their that is relatively unimportant because these could be prevented by even minimalist hygienic preventative measures.

Wash penis regularly = Don’t get infection

But new evidence appeared in July of 2005. A study being performed by French and South African Aids researchers showed that circumcision reduced the risk of contracting HIV by 70%
The AIDS vaccine only has a target of 30% risk reduction

Debate this significance.

What are the drawbacks of getting cut?
1. Most circumcisions happen to males under the age of 1 month. Hello? Consent?
2. It is painful
3. May reduce sensitivity and sexual pleasure
4. Drastically reduces or eliminates male lubrication
5. Increases vaginal abrasion due to increased friction from sliding
6. Difficulty achieving orgasm and requiring hard thrusting to achieve orgasm.

What can I do if I want my foreskin back?
Surgical options – Not recommended
Protect Fereneulum when not in use USE SUGICAL TAPE ONLY (canister method)
Tugging & weighting systems – Slowly stretching the foreskin back into place
Tugging takes years of commitment and it isn’t always comfortable.
Shea Butter seems to help

Tugging Systems:

TLC Tugger $50
Tlctugger.com


My Skin Clamp $189
www.myskinclamp.com


Weighted Systems:

Foreballs $130
www.foreskinrestoration.com


Blended Systems

4 Restore $130
www.4restore.com